I didn’t realize how much I’d missed my parents until they were leaving today. They kinda sensed that I was sad that they were leaving, and stayed around a couple minutes longer before they had to leave for the airport. I cried a little as I walked back to my office; I wish they could’ve stayed longer, but I’m happy they came all the way at here to see me.

fuckyeahdogs:

Despite flotation equipment, Oscar the pug struggles to enjoy the merits of the waters of Helene Madison Pool during an open dog swim - with no humans allowed - on Sunday, August 17, 2014, in Seattle, Wash.

fuckyeahdogs:

Despite flotation equipment, Oscar the pug struggles to enjoy the merits of the waters of Helene Madison Pool during an open dog swim - with no humans allowed - on Sunday, August 17, 2014, in Seattle, Wash.

One year my colleagues David and Carole were preparing a skit on abuse for a conference, and they decided to perform a rehearsal for their abuser group. Afterward, the group members rapid-fired their suggestions for improving the skit, directing them mostly at David: “No, no, you don’t make excuses for why you’re home late, that puts you on the defensive, you’ve got to turn it around on her, tell her you know she’s cheating on you….. You’re staying too far away from her, David. Take a couple of steps toward her, so she’ll know that you mean business…. You’re letting her say too much. You’ve got to cut her off and stick to your points.” The counselors were struck by how aware the clients were of the kinds of tactics they use, and why they use them: In the excitement of giving feedback on the skit, the men let down their facade as “out-of-control abuser who doesn’t realize what he’s doing.

“Why Does He Do That” by Lundy Bancroft (via bajo-el-mar)

I really need to read this, Jesus.

(via selfcareafterrape)

Malcolm X at a meeting in Paris, November 23, 1964

  • White interviewer: If it was our white ancestors who bought you and enslaved you, we are their children. We are the new generation. Why don't you call us your brothers?
  • Malcolm X: A man has to act like a brother before you can call him a brother. You made a very good point, really, that needs some clarification. If you are the son of the man who had a wealthy estate and you inherit your father's estate, you have to pay off the debts that your father incurred before he died. The only reason that the present generation of white Americans are in the position of economic strength that they are is because their fathers worked our fathers for over 400 years with no pay. For over 400 years we worked for nothing. We were sold from plantation to plantation like you sell a horse, or a cow, or a chicken, or a bushel of wheat. It was your fathers who did it to our fathers, and all of that money that piled up from the sale of my mother and my grandmother and my great-grandmother is what gives the present generation of American whites [the ability] to walk around the earth with their chest out; you know, like they have some kind of economic ingenuity. Your father isn't here to pay his debts. My father isn't here to collect. But I'm here to collect and you're here to pay.